Some time ago, I did a research and this question was asked.
Can a lady who is between the age bracket of 23-26 live alone and still pay her bills?
Your suggestions are also needed.
I think living alone is exciting and can be very adventurous. Anybody is permitted to live alone, as long as you are matured enough to handle it.
Different people have different intentions why they want to live alone. It could be because they want their privacy or maybe because their friends are living alone and they feel they want to do same.
Most times, living alone can provide calm and composed energy to a person, which in turn propels a healthy life.
In some developed countries, when a child turns 18, he/she is allowed to rent an apartment and foot her bills because, there's always a government allowance to her citizens.
In African, the concept about ladies living alone is limited because most people feel when a lady chooses to live alone, she's up to something.
They would say, once a lady is not living with her parents, it means she is living with a man-factor or she's living a way-ward life.
This belief should have been stopped by now but, it's still in existence even amongst Nigerians.
Some ladies will use marriage to run away from their homes because they feel their parents caged them, by not letting them express themselves.
Though I don't see any reason why a lady shouldn't live alone in as much that, she is well disciplined.
A lady that stays alone, develops a greater sense of autonomy over time which creates opportunities for her to pursue her passion, interest and also do the work she cares about.
Some ladies I interviewed, once said that the reason why they decided to live alone is because, they love their privacy and that they also want to explore (meet people and get connected with the society at large), build their capacity as a woman, be independent (not liabilities to their family) and still be descent.
There are so many high ranked women who are successful in our society, who lived alone before they got married.
A lady who finishes her education and other academic activities before she clocks 26-years, should be allowed to explore and live happily before marriage.
I know that, due to insecurities in the country, ladies are not allowed or advised to live alone in an apartment to avoid rape and other sexual attacks but still as a lady you have to be very careful in other not to end up as a mediocre.
That's why as a lady, before leaving your parents house, you should have your goals you want to achieve and also take precautions on where you want to live (surroundings and neighbors).
Don't give the society the impression that, allowing a lady to live alone is bad.
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ReplyDeleteI think our society is predominantly one where homes are run typically overprotective and extremely impressionable parents. If you haven't known and had enough of your child between preschool and college years, it's more than likely that's going to change if you had them longer with you.
ReplyDeleteIf you ask me, I'm for kids, sex regardless, leaving home earlier, and that's just as long as there's a clear and incontrovertible motivation for it. You may want to move to a different city with better employment prospects, or learn a trade, or add to your academic credentials. I would support these goals because it puts them on the path of independent progress. This shouldn't be a problem if we realized our duty to our children is to guide them to become self-reliant, responsible adult, and that's better the younger it's learnt.
It's going to foster calculated planning and decision-making skill. You learn to outline and live within your budget, make more social contacts, and alogether build a self-disciplined approach to life.
If there's any concern over a girl within this age span leaving their parents' nest, I think the least is physical security. I'd worry more about financial preparedness and security. Girls by nature have significantly bigger demands than boys. You just have to know they have the capacity to handle the shopping list they would naturally throw at you on weekends. It's enough to establish they are well and truly ready to care of themselves — without getting into debt, or giving themselves to the affections and induldgences of a male benefactor.
I think there's literally nothing with women that age living alone. How long we have them is for them to decide, and not based on prejudices of a stereotyped society. There are women well into their forties who unmarried and still living off their parents. They are miles behind their peers, and that's probably because someone thought they didn't have to leave home. And when you've had everything thought out and provided for you, you almost never want to leave that comfort zone. That could spell frustration for a family, for the individual.
Why not!!
ReplyDeleteA lady that has the financial capability and capacity to live alone even at the age of 20 should be allowed to do that. It will even help her explore the more
Why not!!
ReplyDeleteA lady that has the financial capability and capacity to live alone even at the age of 20 should be allowed to do that. It will even help her explore the more
Why not!!
ReplyDeleteA lady that has the financial capability and capacity to live alone even at the age of 20 should be allowed to do that. It will even help her explore the more
It all boils down to being disciplined
ReplyDeleteThere is no specific age or time or being a good or bad idea.
ReplyDeleteLiving alone proves that you are responsible enough.
And when that happen, naturally you don't really permission per say so long as you never expect anyone to foot the bills that comes with it
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ReplyDeleteInteresting piece of article I must say...
ReplyDeleteI always believe self discipline is the best gift one can acquire for him/herself, everything about the thoughts and imaginations of this act of living alone goes down to the kind of discipline one has acquired.
Both the one who wants to live alone and the person who will read meaning to it need to be positive.
Personally, I see nothing wrong with a young lady living alone. The level of African mentality has caused more people to be actively negative in their thinking and dealings.
Just be positive that's all.
Believe!!!
Yes she should be allowed to live alone
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